Self-esteem is all about how you feel about yourself, a yardstick of how competent you believe yourself. This is why self-esteem is so important. It is a series of decisions that you have made regarding your self-worth.
You might think that your self-esteem comes from outside you; from what other people think of you, from how attractive other people find you, how smart other people think you are. That’s not true and for the most part you have very little say over other people’s beliefs.
100% of your self-esteem, your self-worth, comes from your opinions of yourself. And how you feel about yourself determines your decisions and your actions.
When your feelings about your abilities are mostly negative, your outcomes will be mostly negative.
If you feel that you can’t do something, the end result is, more often than not, an accurate reflection of those beliefs.
If you feel that you don’t deserve to have something, you won’t get it.
If you feel that you won’t reach your goals… You don’t need me to spell it out.
On the flip-side, and the good news is that, if you feel that you can do something, that you deserve it and you will achieve it, you’ll put the effort in to pursue that goal until you get there.
This is why self-esteem is so important. It governs whether or not you will be motivated enough to reach for your ultimate dreams. If you don’t think you can do something, you won’t be bothered to try.
- You won’t get out of bed at 5am to start your day
- You won’t get to that workout when you’ve got a bit of a cold
- You won’t write that covering letter for that job you want
- You’ll cheat on your diet
- You won’t pay your loved ones the attention they need
- You won’t pay yourself the attention YOU need
Every time you have the opportunity to think something about yourself, make sure it’s something positive
Every time someone says something negative about you, you have the option of not believing it
If we look for the negative, we’ll find it, so look for the positive, because that’s what you’ll find.
We all need to reaffirm our excellence at times and sometimes need a little help. My course, The Confidence To WIN will help you take your self-esteem to the next level.